are you a leader or a follower?

someone asked me this today in my formspring and i thought it was a good question.

i couldn't really give an answer and i kept deleting my response and we-writing it.

i ended up with this answer:
the hardest question in my formspring, good job. the decisions i've made in how i choose to live my life would make me assume that i'm closer to a leader. however, i don't mind following if the interests are similar to mine and i could come up with good ideas, help people, etc. again, hardest question in my formspring.

i would have to say starting around elementary school i was a follower. i was the smallest one in my class and was shy. i had a handful of friends, and i didn't feel comfortable around the other kids at school. a lot of them had nicer things than i did, and i often got picked on for this. i spent many, almost every recess alone. i read, i wrote, i just sat there and watched other kids. i don't remember being particularly sad. after a while you don't really feel anything. i was content, because it was all i knew. middle school came along. and i started to question everything. i became vegan during this time. which set me more apart from everyone else. boys didn't notice me. the popular girls didn't want to be my friend. it was like this all of middle school. high school was for the most part, terrible. i went through a lot of family and personal issues, and realized that claiming edge was the best thing i could ever do for myself. i took initiative to make myself the person i am today. i was the first junior that was ever editor for my schools newspaper. and ever since then i've been doing what i feel is best for me. i like to plan out road trips. i like to budget my money. i like to feel in control and i like being pro-active. i think everyone has to be a follower at some point to be a good leader. you have to have an investment in the people you're working with, and its got to be something you take home with you.

if i was ever a "leader" in my life, the time would be now. and i'm getting better and better at it. i do believe in fairness in relationships. in my opinion, there is a time and a place for the male to be dominant and a time and a place for the woman to be dominant. for example, if i'm with a guy that can't cook, then hell, i'm going to cook for him. if he can cook, and he wants to cook, that's fine with me too. as long as we're both happy, i don't see the problem. if i'm with one of my girlfriends and she wants to eat at this place and i want to eat at that place, then we talk it through it. i don't play that bullshit "where do you want to eat?" sigh "oh, i don't care, you pick something". i don't do that. if someone asks me where i want to eat i give them a straight up answer. "dominant" and "submissive" are coming to mind when i'm thinking of these scenarios.

there are other ways in my life i could be a leader/follower. maybe whoever asked me that should keep asking me questions. they have good insight.

but very, very good question. thank you for not writing something perverted in my formspring.